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Friday, August 19, 2005

(*) Norm still around

You might remember I've been visiting an elderly chap 'Norm' in one of the local nursing homes about once a week, just to keep him company and help him have another friend while he's slowly disappearing into his dementia. I've caught up with him twice this week - just quick 10-minute visits. Tuesday was the first time I'd seen him really 'bad' and muddled/disoriented in the past few weeks since we've been getting to know each other. It was a little disturbing at first, but I just took it as it comes. It's nothing personal, it's just how the disease progresses - good one day, not so the next. Then 2 days' later, he was the same ol' Norm I'd been hanging out with for the past few weeks. Funny how it works like that... actually, the local library have a large collection of books and videos about caring and dealing with people going thru dementia, so they'll be getting some closer attention as the months' progress. Healthwise, he seems quite strong, which is sad sometimes, as his memory is so fragmented at times. There are other people living in the wing with him that are in much much poorer condition, both health and understanding-wise. I don't know how he copes in there, but he seems happy enough. He seems to be the youngest of the people in his immediate area (he's only in his late 60's), but he's not mentally alert enough to be left alone for too long, poor bloke. He's a nice bloke too. I'm still enjoying visiting him tho, as sad as it feels somedays. Not to worry.

See? I TOLD you not to sit so CLOSE to the computer!!!

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On August 21, 2005 6:32 AM, Blogger Zinnia Cyclamen said...

Good to have a Norm update; I'd been wondering. And I loved reading about your holiday too. Really glad you had such a good time.

On August 22, 2005 2:09 AM, Blogger Monica said...

That is really kind of you to make a friend in the nursing home. Alzheimers can be devestating to anyone's family. Several of my family members have it and it's so sad to see even your own family member not recognize you. Having someone come to visit is wonderful for him I'm sure. Even if he doesn't recognize you on occasion.

On August 22, 2005 5:47 PM, Blogger Mallard said...

Thank you, ladies. Yes, it's rewarding, but it's hard-emotionally at the same time, even tho he's just a friend and not family. He enjoys his visits, and occasionally we sit outside and have a smoke together (which I choke thru - all in the name of friendship! lol)

On August 23, 2005 1:52 PM, Blogger caroline said...

You are a very special man to do the things you do. Most men are to busy to help their fellow man


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